Open Biofeedback Hours

Come in and practice your stress management skills and explore what specific relaxation styles work best for you. Each student will be assisted by a Biofeedback Assistant at their own computer station. Available to all BYU students, staff, and faculty.

Open Biofeedback Training may include:

• Playing fun interactive biofeedback games and activities to: 
• calm down
• improve concentration and memory
• enhance performance in academics, music and sports
• Learning relaxation skills
• Fulfillment of class requirements 

The first 3 people each hour will be admitted since there is limited space available. No appointment necessary.

All open biofeedback hours are held in 1582 WSC. White spaces indicate open hours for Winter 2013.

To find out the daily schedule of Open Biofeedback Hours, see the schedule below, call 801-422-3035 or come by the Counseling and Psychological Services reception desk in 1500 WSC between 8am and 5pm weekdays.

Breathing How-To

Breathing more slowly, gently and deeply helps to calm and relax and can also reduce tension and anxiety and improve concentration and memory. Shallow and fast breathing can contribute to anxiety, muscular tension, panic attacks, headaches, and fatigue. By practicing slow, deep breathing, your mind will calm down and your body will relax. Diaphragmatic, or, abdominal breathing is one of  the easiest ways to produce the relaxation response. Practice 10 or more minutes to learn the proper technique for deep relaxation. helping to reduce muscle tension and anxiety. Throughout the day, frequently take a few slow, deep breaths or do a couple minutes of diaphragmatic breathing, especially when feeling stressed.

This amusing clip starring Elmo and Colbie Caillat teaches kids early on the importance and technique of breathing deeply as a stress management tool.  This is a technique that works for all ages!

On a more serious note, here is a breathing meditation where you can apply this belly breathing technique to relax and de-stress yourself.

The Stress of Perfectionism

A lot of the stress that we experience every day is brought upon by ourselves.  We may set unrealistic expectations for ourselves that we feel we must meet.  But we all want to do our best and excel in life.  What is the difference between doing your best and impractical perfectionism?  In a devotional to the Provo MTC in 2002, current BYU president Cecil O. Samuelson talks about perfectionism and how to overcome it.

What Does It Mean to Be Perfect?

For over 20 years I was a professor and practitioner of medicine, and I have a concern that I know is shared by other General Authorities. A matter of great concern for some of you is the issue that mental health professionals describe as “perfectionism.” Interestingly, often those who struggle the most with issues of perfectionism are among the most talented people. They have often been excellent students, model children, and outstanding young people. Some, however, become so obsessed or consumed with their every thought, action, and response, that they may become far too extreme in their own perceptions of what is expected of them.

Continue in Patience

There is an understandable goal to follow the Savior’s direction to “be ye therefore perfect” (Matt. 5:48). While this goal is admirable and appropriate, it is unfortunate that some consider that this perfection must occur immediately. A careful study of the footnote in our scriptures to this verse teaches us that the notion of being perfect means that we are “complete, finished, fully developed.” Thus, while we should be engaged in the process of perfection, we need to acknowledge that achieving this goal will likely take a long time for all of us. The Lord said, “Ye are not able to abide the presence of God now, neither the ministering of angels; wherefore, continue in patience until ye are perfected” (D&C 67:13). This is good advice for all of us.

There clearly are some things in which you can be perfect. The payment of tithing and the behavioral aspects of the law of chastity are examples. There are other things, however, that most of us will need to work on throughout our entire lives and yet not reach the perfection that is eventually promised until the eternities if we are true and faithful. Matters such as having absolute faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, a complete understanding of the scriptures, always controlling our thoughts and our tongues are all issues that require persistence and patience.

Worthiness and Perfection

Occasionally, for well-motivated and highly devoted Latter-day Saints, confusion occurs about the differences between worthiness and perfection. Worthiness and perfection don’t mean the same thing! All of us are “works in process.” We can be worthy while still needing improvement.

Be sure that you do not have higher standards for yourself or others than the Lord has established. Find satisfaction in your progress while acknowledging that perfection may still be distant.

Our perceptions of ourselves may or may not be accurate, but more frequently than we may expect, they may differ from how others view us. Those suffering from perfectionism tend to be wonderful, contributing, and effective people, and yet may feel that no matter what they do, it is never enough. These good people suffer from exaggerating their minor mistakes, weaknesses, or shortcomings to the point that they may become dysfunctional.

Please note that I am not against modesty or humility. These are important and even cardinal virtues. Jesus taught us that we should be meek but not masochistic. When we become obsessed with our deficiencies or weaknesses and so focused upon them that we—of necessity—neglect everything else, then we are out of balance. The Lord shares an important insight: “And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them” (Ether 12:27).

This is the Lord’s formula and promise for dealing with our weaknesses. We need to recognize them, but we do not glory in them or magnify them. For some of them, we do need to get appropriate help early.

Each of us needs to be absolutely honest with him or herself. Most of us do not always see ourselves as others see us or even as the Lord may see us. That is one of the reasons that we are provided with devoted and capable Church leaders to counsel with us, teach us, and support us. We must be absolutely honest with them in all the matters of our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

Wisdom and Order

Too many of us tend to glory in or dwell on our weaknesses, temptations, and shortcomings. We must recognize them, get help when that is appropriate (see Editors’ note on this page), but move on as soon as possible and not be preoccupied with them. But when serious problems or challenges are facing us, neglecting them or repressing them almost always makes them worse rather than causing them to go away.

Let me assure you that you are literal sons and daughters of our loving Heavenly Father, who knows you and cares about you. This you must not only know but must never forget. If you always do your best with realistic expectations and understanding of both your strengths and weaknesses, you will be able to be an important part of this great work.

In King Benjamin’s wonderful address, the people under his stewardship were corrected, instructed, and inspired. He taught them of the Savior’s Atonement and also the capacity that they could have to put off the “natural man” and become saints (see Mosiah 3:19). He taught them of their tremendous responsibilities and helped them understand how they might retain a remission of their sins through faithfully keeping the covenants they had made and the commandments they had received. After all of this, remember these words of this wise prophet-king: “And see that all these things are done in wisdom and order; for it is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength” (Mosiah 4:27). All that we do must be done in “wisdom and order.”

May the Lord bless us all to understand clearly our potential and place. May we have the courage to stand tall in the face of our challenges, the wisdom to get help when we need it, and the faith to know that the Lord will bless His servants who are doing their best.

“We all need to remember: men are that they might have joy—not guilt trips!” —Elder Russell M. Nelson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, “Perfection Pending,” Ensign, Nov. 1995, 86.

“Worthiness is a process, and perfection is an eternal trek. We can be worthy to enjoy certain privileges without being perfect.” —Elder Marvin J. Ashton (1915–1994), “On Being Worthy,” Ensign, May 1989, 20.

“The Church is ‘for the perfecting of the saints’ (Eph. 4:12); it is not a well-provisioned rest home for the already perfected.” —Elder Neal A. Maxwell (1926–2004), “A Brother Offended,” Ensign, May 1982, 38.

Perfectionism is a medical condition characterized by severe self-criticism and self-doubt, often accompanied by anxiety, depression, or obsessive-compulsive behavior. It can lead to appetite and sleep disturbances, confusion, problems in relationships, inability to concentrate, procrastination of important tasks, and, if left untreated, major depression, anxiety disorders, and suicide.

What’s the Difference?

Doing Your Best	Perfectionism
You desire to give things your best efforts and are satisfied when you do.	You have a list of “shoulds” and “have to’s” and are dissatisfied even if you complete them.
You know it’s okay if you make a mistake. You move on and see your mistake as an opportunity for growth or learning.	Mistakes bring feelings of self-hatred. You don’t want to do anything because you are afraid of failure.
You want to do your personal best, and you try not to compare your achievements to those of others. You don’t need to be the best at all things.	You feel tremendous pressure to earn others’ approval. You must be the best or “perfect” in your tasks.
You can find joy in doing the things you love, and you can get things accomplished.	Your need to do things perfectly leads to procrastination until you have time to do it “perfectly,” and you feel driven by fear or duty instead of love.
Trying to do your best and perfecting yourself “line upon line” with the Savior’s help isChrist-centered because you need the Atonement.	Perfectionism is self-centered. You measure yourself against your own standards and against others’ standards, not God’s.

What strategies or mindsets do you use to overcome perfectionism?

Wake me up when September ends... a guide to better sleep

BENEFITS OF SLEEP

Sleep is a necessary aspect of life and is essential to our health. It is recommended that we get 8 hours of sleep every night. The Harvard Women's Health Watch suggests six reasons to get enough sleep:

1. Learning and memory. Sleep helps the brain to commit new information to memory.

2. Metabolism and weight. Chronic sleep deprivation may cause weight gain by affecting the way our bodies process and store carbohydrates and by altering levels of hormones that affect our appetite.

3. Safety. A lack of sleep contributes to a greater tendency to fall asleep during the daytime. These lapses may cause falls or mistakes such as medical errors, air traffic mishaps, and road accidents.

4. Mood. Sleep loss may result in irritability, impatience, inability to concentrate, and moodiness. Too little sleep can also leave you too tired to do the things you like to do.

5. Cardiovascular health. Serious sleep disorders have been linked to hypertension, increased stress hormone levels, and irregular heartbeat.

6. Disease. Sleep deprivation alters immune function, including the activity of the body's killer cells. Keeping up with sleep may also help fight cancer.

-Harvard Health Publications: Harvard Medical School 

http://www.health.harvard.edu/press_releases/importance_of_sleep_and_health.htm

12 TIPS FOR BETTER SLEEP

• Keep regular hours. Go to bed and get up at the same time every day, even on weekends.
   
• Aim at getting enough sleep. Most adults need 7-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep each night. 
   
• Don't eat or drink large amounts before bedtime. Eating before bed can cause sleep interruptions if you have to get up and go to the bathroom. 
   
• Avoid caffeine in the evening. Caffeine is a stimulant and it takes several hours for your body to eliminate it. Avoid consuming caffeine for at least eight hours before bed.
   
• Make your bedroom cool, dark, quiet and comfortable. Adjust the conditions in your room to best suit your preferences. Try to eliminate all outside noises. If this is not possible, a fan, earplugs or recordings of soothing sounds may be helpful. 
   
• Use your bed only for sleeping. Avoid watching TV or using a laptop in bed. These items can be stimulating and make it difficult to fall asleep. 
   
• Exercise regularly. Exercise can help you fall asleep faster and make your sleep more restful.
   
• Sleep primarily at night. If a daytime nap is needed, limit it to 30 minutes and try to take it at mid-afternoon.
   
• Choose a comfortable mattress and pillow.
   
• Start a relaxing bedtime routine. Each night do the same relaxing routine to help your body unwind. Examples include: taking a warm bath, reading a book, or listening to soothing music.
   
• Go to bed when you are tired and turn out the lights.
   
• Avoid looking at the clock. Waking up in the middle of the night and looking at the clock can cause anxiety. Turn the clock away from you to avoid this stress.

 Well and Wise Handout with more tips

Technology Busting Tips

Technology is a great blessing in our lives. It helps us stay connected to those around us and access information with the click of a mouse or a swipe of the finger. But as with all things, moderation is crucial to keep us in balance. When used too frequently and relied upon too much, technology has the power to distract us from what really matters and become an extra stress in our lives. Here's a few tips for keeping technology usage in check and making sure it acts as a help rather than a hindrance to our mental and spiritual health:

• Turn your phone off for a few hours everyday
  
• Allow yourself to have idle moments where you are not looking at a computer screen, TV, or phone
• Open one web browser at a time when on the internet
• Limit how often you check your email or facebook based on what you feel is necessary rather than checking because you are bored
• Do not watch TV or be on a computer an hour before your bedtime
  
• Read more from books, journals, and the paper--studies show that we still absorb more information by reading things that are not online

Who's in Control?

Stress sometimes seems like it's a prevalent part of our lives; that our lives are crazy and out of control, and that there's very little we can do about that. In reality, we are very much in control of the decisions we make. "The simple realization that you’re in control of your life is the foundation of stress management" (helpguide.org). We make decisions almost constantly that effect our level of stress. When we realize how we may be causing ourselves to feel additional stress, we are in a position to change it.

Elder Dallin H. Oaks gave a talk entitled "Good, Better, Best" that can help us understand how to prioritize our lives. You can read that here if you want help deciding what in your life is good, what is better, and what is best. You are in control of your life and you can make decisions to help you reduce your stress. What better time to start than today? Start by thinking about what is important in your life, then prioritize what is most important to you and what is essential for you to achieve your goals. You will notice as the less important tasks drop out that your stress level will decrease too.

Stress and Headaches

Constant psychological stress can lead to muscle tension, pain, and headaches. This article from the Mayo Clinic offers several helpful ideas to help decrease headaches over time. Some of the suggestions may feel difficult to implement (e.g. relaxing for a few minutes each day, taking a break) but as you try them, you will notice a difference in your overall health and stress levels. Try it out and see what works for you!