Changing our Thoughts

Tension Producing Statements:

1. It probably won’t work
2. I should not feel this way
3. If you really cared you would…
4. I am not as smart and attractive as she is
5. He makes me so mad
6. I can’t understand it
7. I’m getting nervous
8. I’ll disappoint them and let them down
9. I’m not good enough
10. I’ve never been any good at this.
11. I’ll never do this right
12. You can’t make any money doing that
13. Everything depends on this
14. If I don’t reach that goal, it will be terrible
15. If others disagree with me, I must be wrong
16. He ought to know what I’m feeling
17. It must be my fault
18. I will never get it done in time
19. If I don’t get good grades, my future is ruined
20. I’m not BYU material
21. I’m so stupid
22. I should be more like…
23. He/She would never go out with me
24. I hate it when…

Tension Reducing Statements:

1. It is not worth getting upset over
2. I’m not going to let my emotions get involved in that
3. I can choose to not get angry
4. I can handle it
5. It’s okay to make mistakes
6. Regardless of how I do, I can learn from it
7. I hope it happens but I am not going to expect it to
8. It is okay to be me and to feel the way I do
9. I’ll compare myself with myself rather than with others
10. Worry won’t help solve the problem
11. I can do what I can do and that is all
12. I am a fallible human being
13. I’ll survive
14. I’ll do what I can under the circumstances
15. I can’t do anything about it right now
16. Five years from now, who will care?
17. Let’s put this problem into an eternal perspective
18. I could have done better but at least I tried
19. No one can be love by everyone
20. Other people are going to be different from me
21. What is the worst thing that can happen?
22. Getting upset will just make it worse
23. One thing at a time
24. I will cheer for, rather than compete with others
25. That’s their problem, not mine
26. It is not requisite that I run fast than I have strength